I'm a 36 year old single mother of two. I gave up a short career in nursing due to exhaustion and burnout about 9 years ago. I did very well as regards academic achievement but only with a lot of leeway (ie not having to attend lectures, plenty extensions). But it's the social aspect that beats me. To the point of total retreat, depression, repeatedly burning bridges.
To this day, I struggle with overstimulation as well as social interactions. Recently, a dear friend who I have so much in common with mentioned that she was being assessed for ASD and suggested that it might make sense for me too. I've found the book about Aspergirls and this site and I have to say, I'm recognising a lot of my traits here.
It's made me spend time remembering my past from school on, and I've had a lot of moments of realization. Events starting to make sense when I have this frame of reference for what I was missing. I always thought I'd grow out of my social issues, but times where I've out myself out there I find the same problems.
I'm going to go back to counselling with a therapist who specializes in ASD. To see what she thinks and to get support to approach a GP. I've used therapy before to help me make sense of life. I often don't know what I'm feeling, at least not til a lot of time has passed and I've googled the shit out of a situation. And therapy has helped to get me in touch with my body and emotions before. (Ie, helped me discover at 32 that I was gay, I hadn't connected the emotions of that).
I have one particular friend who I share a mutual respect with. She too may be similar, and we autimatically understand one another's need for space, analysis and capacity for overwhelm. It's like another world. I'm still not secure in the friendship (of 2 years) because of a history of losing people, but it's been wonderful to find someone from my own planet (or at least a neighbouring one).
I've felt so stunted, all my life, despite having a great capacity for taking in information. When I read your posts here, I feel such relief. If I am like you, then we're all just different. My isolation in the world seems less inevitable if there are others like me.
So hi! Hope I can contribute!