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i was diagnosed at 16 and also brushed it off, then received a generalized anxiety disorder diagnosis which felt more accurate at the time.
i'm still trying to figure out if the aspergers diagnosis is true. it would explain my struggles with executive function, gender dysphoria, and a couple of other things. but on the other hand i consider myself high functioning and don't want therapy or special accommodations at work so...i'll just stick to doing my own research and occasionally posting here.
I think that you should take advantage of the help that is offered even if it’s something “normal” like therapy. It will definitely help with the executive function.
I hate Executive dysfunction so much it really irritates me how I just cannot force myself to do anything and I feel like a total slob when my boyfriend comes home and I haven’t even showered or eaten and it’s 6pm. Having a job helps with that because I can make a schedule around my shifts and tell myself “ok at 3 you need to take a shower so your hair will be dry before you have to leave and you won’t have to deal with wet hair and the cold air” then I’ll do it
These titles are a sampling of the executive functioning skills resources available for adults:
Seeing My Time (workbook with visual tools) – by Marydee Sklar
The Smart but Scattered Guide to Success – by Peg Dawson and Richard Guare
The CEO of Self: An Executive Functioning Workbook – by Jan Johnston-Tyler (founder of EvoLibri)
Adult Executive Functioning Workbook – by Karen Fried and Melissa Mullin
This was suggested to me for EF trouble. Also bullet journal.
I've managed to find a lot of nice resources on the internet. Just reading about symptoms, and other people's experiences, has helped me with coping strategies. I have a few bookmarked at home, but a lot of them I was linked to from here and have since forgotten.
But others may be able to recommend more "in person" resources. It may depend a lot on where you live (I doubt there is anything besides therapy in my location).
Hey, I also went through a process of being diagnosed, denying it (because I associated it with being placed in special ed, which was ass), and coming to terms with it. I didn't know what my IEP was for and I only knew that it had to do with me being in special ed, so in high school I asked to be taken off of it completely. Not a single person ever discussed with me that it was supposed to be for academic accommodation so I just didn't know until years later when I wrote a paper on a similar subject and had to research IDEA.
So what I would start with is learning your legal rights. If you live in the US, the federal laws granting you legal access to accomodation are ADA and Section 504 of the rehabilitation act. You may not need them in your workplace but they can also be useful if, for example, you have to go to court and need accommodations. I was just told (after procrastinating for two years to renew my expired state ID) that I actually qualify for a state ID that doesn't expire (not a driver's license). That would have been useful information the first time I got a state ID because going to the DMV was a huge drain and it only took an hour all told.
As for any other issues, researching coping strategies is always a plus. If you have a question you can always post it here.
Don't worry about functioning labels - they don't actually mean anything in a medical sense and aren't part of the diagnosis. They're also not really descriptive.
See I’ve had so many jobs that have fired me because I “don’t smile or make eye contact with customers” and sometimes I’ll go completely mute, and I always wondered whether my ASD was covered under the ADA in the work place. I do have a service dog for over stimulation (dpt and interruption)and other tasks that are related moreso to other disabilities but it’s nice to know that ASD is taken under the ADA. Definitely will help in my future jobs and endeavors.
Right to hire right to fire states are fucked
Oh for going mute, my recommendation is to get a speech app on your phone. I like speech assistant. Free, programmable, and doesn't look like it's designed for children.
You could be fired for doing your hair differently one day if they wanted
ASD is listed as an automatic qualifier as a person with a disability in ADA unless I'm misremembering.
You could meet with a shrink to discuss getting a letter explaining your autism-relateed accommodations, or if you already have one just discuss with them. Even if your additional accommodations are just "hey, I have difficulty with these things, please allow me to switch to another task such as...[whatever is relevant in your job]."
You are probably already accessing disability services based on other symptoms, which is good. Remembering to treat your autism as a disability when requesting services isn't going to hurt you in that regard. My biggest concern with disclosing or not disclosing is whether or not I think I will benefit more from not outing myself as disabled or from receiving my accommodations. I am learning that it's usually better for me to just ask for accommodations, even if I don't frame it as autism-related (for example - I also have severe allergies and asthma so I really have to disclose that so my coworkers don't accidentally poison me - sometimes I'll blame things on my asthma instead of trying to explain all of my weird miscellaneous autism symptoms >_<).
I just wanna say welcome to the community, and I hope you find a sense of support, belonging, and comfort here <3
Who said "high functioning"? That is outdated and some find it harmful. Support levels are commonly used in the USA.
Autistic people look however they want or can. There is no real dress code.
Look into DBT and psychedelic psychotherapy. Maps.org
Ok thanks for telling me (an autistic person) how one should refer to their condition. I do know that high functioning is outdated, however, I was diagnosed nearly 20 years ago.
I know we can look how ever we want, but the general public believe that we must look a certain way to qualify as having any condition. I know that’s not tru,me, however, I am often told that I don’t “look” autistic because I don’t fit how NT think people who have autism “look”.
Ok thanks for telling me (an autistic person) how one should refer to their condition.
Is it sarcasm? Your meaning is uncertain.
the general public believe that we must look a certain way to qualify as having any condition
I don't give a fuck what other people want me to look like and refuse to mask or conform any longer.
A big part of it for me was no longer feeling defective and actually recognising what was happening for me when stuff got 'too much'. I always make sure I have noise cancelling headphones and sunglasses now and I have stopped giving a shit about stimming in public. All of these things have helped me cope.