As others have said, the app Her is a nice way to meet local ladies.
I like dating apps because you can find out a lot about a person before having to invest your time and energy. I put "neurodivergent" and "quiromantic" on my profile just so people KNOW what they're potentially getting themselves into. And if they don't know what either mean, they can ask.
As for the actual dating part, I'm pretty clueless too. I've been on a good number of dates from dating apps, and it seems you either automatically connect or you don't. I have met people, men and women, I am strictly physically attracted to, but in no way care about romantically or platonicly . I will make awkward-talk and follow them around like a puppy and text them a lot, but it's just wasting both of our times. I have wasted so many months just obsessing over people I didn't really care about -- I just thought they were hot and felt like for some reason that we should have a connection. But if the connection isn't there after the first time you meet, it's not going to magically appear after the second time (and so on).
Sorry for the ramble! But my advice is to trust you gut when it comes to connections. If is feels nice to talk to them about both of your interests, keep going. If you feel like you have to force on conversation you don't care about, don't bother making plans to see each other again. The right person won't care if you don't say or do the "right" thing. They will accept you in your quirks. Don't be afraid to express your social challenges. As others have said, women are usually more understanding of this than others, so they will probably be super cool about it, and be willing to help you about when things get confusion.
Best of luck!